There are many
variations of this title. The late jazz and R&B singer Lou Rawls used lyrics
in his popular song with the title, “If I Coulda, Woulda, Shoulda” The guest
evangelist speaking at a church service titled her sermon, “When I Could, I Wouldn’t;
now I Want to and I Can’t.” Anyway you say it; the intent is to suggest
regrets.
If you are reading this
article and have never spoken these words or something similar, you can stop
reading now. You are perfect! For the rest of us, there have been times in
life, perhaps even now, that you have considered, what if? What if I had continued
in school, not had children, married the other person, stayed on my job, took
the position in another town, did as the doctor told me………and the list goes on.
You can place your own if(s) in the dots and if you are like me, could possible
fill most of this page. We all have times when we reflect on the past and
believe things would be different if we had taken another direction or made
another choice whether personal, family, relationships, careers, or business.
You are absolutely
correct; things would be different, but not necessarily for the better. We
typically make decisions based on circumstances that dictate our choices.
Sometimes we have full knowledge and other times we make decisions based on our
emotions. Even decisions made with significant thought, research and educated
calculations may not bring us the results we seek. Most significant is the
experiences and lessons learned. If we
carefully review are past choices and move forward, we elevate our thought
process to a “now focus.”
You may have regrets,
but you do not have to remain in that cloud. I understand some choices have
been extreme like drug and alcohol addictions, committing crimes, staying in
abusive situations or being abusive. However, if you have humbled yourself and
submitted to a better life, you have made an incredibly important choice.
Regardless of your regret or situation, it is now time to take a living forward position and keep going
in that direction no matter what. You Could, if only you Would!
For more on Sheila Agnew visit her on the web at http://www.sheilaagnew.com
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