Monday, December 31, 2012


     It's the end of one year and the beginning of another. Many people are talking about resolutions, making plans and having great expectations for the New Year.  That is a beautiful thing, but personally, I stopped making New Year resolutions several years ago upon realizing I was not resolving anything. I had many of the same issues at the end of every year and my great plans seem to drift further and further away before the first quarter of the year was over.
      Don’t get me wrong! I absolutely believe in making resolutions. I just had to start thinking and doing things a little different in order to accomplish my goals and objectives with success.  Thus, the New You Resolution was born.  This concept consisted of working to resolve issues year round.  When the New Year began, my focus was leaving the garbage and trash behind, including negative news, situations and people, making it easier to move into more positive experiences.  This process of resolving my issues over a period of time positioned me to move forward with a commitment to change.  Realistically, you have to move some old things out before you put new things in place.  In other words, delete before you complete.
     Now that I am in what some may refer to as the “third quarter” of my life, I think about making Bold Moves.  My pace may be a bit slower, but I am making moves to position myself to live joyful golden years.  The other night while envisioning my Bold Moves for 2013, I mentally reviewed my past personal and business experiences, successes and failures. The older I get, the more clearly I can see what worked, what did not work, and why. This realistic overview was a great revelation about my life.  While I still have some things to resolve, I am more focused on reconnecting, reinventing, rejuvenating, relaxing and moving to a place where my positive experiences overshadow the negative ones.   
     One new thing I am doing for 2013 is releasing my second book entitled, Dear________, Are You Missing Your Calling? The title for chapter two is Being Bold.  This chapter was written to encourage people to step beyond any obstacles that may prevent them from their calling and purpose.  The chapter ends with the following affirmations.
Being Bold is stepping out on Faith.
Being Bold is having Courage.
Being Bold is doing something you have not done before.
Being Bold is doing something no one has done before.
Being Bold is securing your Freedom in search of the unknown.
Being Bold helps you get your message across.
Being Bold is making a Confident affirmation.
     When making your resolutions for 2013, resolve to make Bold Moves and commitments that help you to reach your goals successfully.

Saturday, October 6, 2012

Why President Obama Is Still the Smartest Man I Know?

What many people, including me, felt was a big blunder and even defeat for President Obama on the debate Wednesday evening, was a superb strategy. In hindsight, it was perhaps the best debate strategy in presidential history.

It took me a while to figure it out, particularly since I am on vacation in Aruba and only getting bits and pieces of the aftermath of the debate.  But like many Obama supporters, I could not rest until I shed light in my mind on what appeared to be a complete turnaround in President Obama’s debate skills and presentation.

From the very beginning, the Obama team predicted Mitt Romney would be the Republican challenger.  They were prepared for this even before all the Republican debates and primary, so there is simply no way President Obama was unprepared or intimated.

After hashing the debate over and over with my husband, we really believe President Obama intentionally performed in what appeared to be a lackluster debate as a part of his strategy to expose Mitt Romney’s inconsistencies, and reveal how he would do anything to win an election.

President Obama was aware that Romney would come well-prepared to answer questions that have haunted him like the forty-seven percent video, refusal to release taxes, and the constant flip-flopping of issues among other things. President Obama did not want Romney to have the opportunity to defend those issues with additional lies to the people.  His strategy allowed Romney to continue with more inconsistencies, including saying he supports education, but is going to defund PBS, the educational television channel when he is in office.

The very next day, President Obama went on the campaign trail speaking about all the issues many highly anticipated he would bring out in the debate.  One important component, Romney was not there with his well-prepared rebuttals.  President Obama took a big chance with his strategy. Some polls show a slight bump for Romney after the debate, and many supporters were upset at what appeared to be a lackluster performance, but the truth shall be revealed. 

President Obama is focused, smart and realizes he has an opponent with whom he has to stay one step ahead of the game.  I anxiously await the next debate and pray the real Obama will show up and show out.

VOTE on Tuesday, November 6th.

Thursday, October 4, 2012

Will the Real President Obama Stand Up?
Like millions of people around the world, I watched the Presidential debate last night with great expectations.  In fact, I am on vacation in Aruba and made sure I was planted in front of the TV instead of my nightly ritual of lounging at the pool.
Something happened to me right before the debate that was scary.  I thought, “what if President Obama does not win tonight.” I felt extremely agitated and tense. It was such a scary feeling that I went on the balcony, looked to the sky and said a prayer.
Unlike the excitement I experienced with the McCain/Obama debate of 2008, when I was in DC at an event where they interrupted the program and showed the debate on two large screens, I felt disappointed.  I was disenchanted with the entire program.  The moderator, Jim Lehrer was not in control of the debate, Romney did a great job at continuing to flip-flop and there were so many missed opportunities where President Obama could have won hands down. Some points I believe could have turned the debate were simple and outlined below.

1.      Does Romney Like Obamacare or Not?  First, he campaigned on the promise he would appeal Obamacare, and now he says he likes some portions of the plan.
ObamaYou say you will appeal Obamacare, then turn around and put portions of the plan back into your own health care plan that was largely based on your original health care plan as governor of Massachusetts. In my Gary Coleman voice, “What you trying to say Mitt?”

2.      Both candidates went on and on about taxes and tax cuts.
Obama – Speaking of taxes Mitt, where are yours?

3.      Jobs
Obama – Mitt, when you were Governor of Massachusetts, the state was 48th in job creation and what about all the jobs Bain Capital outsourced to places like China, who you say you will change how you do business with once you are President? Does that mean you will bring back all the jobs you outsourced?

4.      Rodney boasted Massachusetts was number one in Education.
Obama- That may be true now, but not ten years ago when you were Governor.  Are you trying to steal someone else’s credit or just the election?

5.      President Obama said under the Bush trade laws; corporations get tax breaks for doing business overseas.  Romney said corporations do not get breaks.

Obama – Why did you outsource jobs and put your money in banks outside the United States if there is no benefit?  As a matter of fact Mitt, explain to the American people how you expect to represent them when you have outsourced your own money and supported other loopholes for the rich.

6.      Romney kept repeating under my plan, under my plan, under my plan……….
Obama – First of all Mitt, where are your plans.  Secondly, do they include the 47 percent of Americans you are not concerned about?

Where was the real President Obama last night and will the real Mitt Romney please stand up?  In spite of all, Obama has proven to be a man of his word in spite of the many obstacles and Romney has never kept his word because he changes his position to fit the situation. I continue to pray and feel confident President Obama will prevail.

VOTE on November 6th.

Wednesday, August 22, 2012



Tuesday, February 28, 2012

African American Women and their Motivational Quotes-National Women's History

     A couple of years ago, I was in the office of Attorney Janice Mathis, Executive Director of the Rainbow Push in Atlanta and saw this quote on the wall.  “I am but one, but I am one.  I can’t do everything, but I can do something.  What I can do.  What I ought to do, with God helping me, I will do.” After reading it twice, I remember telling her I would give her credit three times and then claim it my own.  Janice responded, “That’s alright, there is a lot more of that in me, so I will just come up with something else.”  
     Her response is significant to the life and struggle so many of our foremothers who throughout the history of America, always came up with something else in order to survive despite the many barriers of color, poverty, hate and despair.  These courageous women saved lives, opened doors, cleaned floors, educated, graduated, raised children, lost children and husbands, worked, cooked and slaved in the hot sun for hours and days.  They endured many roadblocks, but remained steadfast always managing to come up with something else, another way to survive.
    In honor of National Women’s History Month, I am particularly reminiscence of the great African American women whose accomplishments have inspired me on my journey.  Some famous with stories written in history like Harriet Tubman, one of the greatest conductors on the Underground Railroad who reportedly led over five hundred slaves to freedom and later said, “ I could have saved thousands more if they had only realized they were slaves.” Madam CJ Walker is recognized as the first self-made woman entrepreneur in America and was a pioneer in the hair care business creating wealth for thousands of African American women and men who were part of her prestigious sales team. Madam Walker remarked about her career progression in July, 1912 at the National Negro Business League Convention, “I am a woman who came from the cotton fields of the South. From there I was promoted to the washtub.  From there I was promoted to the cook kitchen and from there I promoted myself into the business of manufacturing hair goods and preparations….I have built my own factory on my own ground.”
     Many African American women fought tirelessly for civil rights in the fifties and sixties.  Among them was Fannie Lou Hamer, a civil rights activist and instrumental figure in championing the right to vote and eliminating pervasive poverty in the African American community.  While Fannie Lou is sometimes credited with coining, “I Have a Dream” which was the prelude to what remains the most famous speech in the world by Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., she is probably best known for saying, “I am sick and tired of being sick and tired,” which later became her epitaph.  The most famous woman of the civil rights movement, Rosa Parks, once remarked in response to why she did not give up her seat on the bus to a white man, “The only tired I was, was tired of giving in.”  I marvel at the strength of these great women in history and having had the pleasure of being in the presence of Ms. Parks on a few occasions, the energy I felt was likened to turning on a switch to a lamp. She made a room light up. 
     As we travel on the journey of life, each of us will find our own heroes. Someone will carve a place in your life history to inspire you.  I remember the first time hearing a Black woman give a motivational speech in the late 1970’s at a business function. Her name was C. Delores Tucker, an activist for women’s and civil rights. Later she became an outspoken anti-rap activist, challenging lyrics that degraded women.  Her speech captivated me and I had never heard anything so compelling.  I kept these words from that dynamic presentation with me for life, “we must stand tall like a cypress and walk like a stallion.”  At the passing of my late grandmother, Vivian R. Brown, I used these words in her eulogy to describe how she lived her life.
    Another significant inspiration for me was the first motivational note I received in 1979. One of my business professors in college invited entrepreneurs from the community to speak to the class.  Maryellen Thomas was the public relations director for Proctor and Gardner Advertising, the first advertising agency owned and managed by a Black woman, Barbara Proctor.  Maryellen’s thirty-minute presentation left me inspired about my future.  Her voice was low in pitch but powerful in substance.  I was so moved that I wrote her a thank you note stating that I hoped to meet her on the road to success. Surprisingly, I received a reply I have kept in my possession throughout the years. “You are already there….We cannot achieve every goal or vision.  But, as long as you envision new dimensions of those goals and exercise the energy needed to make them reality, the lull or storm in between is not failure, even though some wish to interpret it as such.  Also, success isn’t always standing, it’s falling down but never forgetting the magnificence of your goal’s skyline… until you are able to stand and touch the sky.” Many times I have failed. Many times I find the letter, read it again encouraging me to stay on the road and I still stand.  I often wonder what became of Maryellen and what she would think if she knew that a brief note to a student became a part of her life history.
     During National Women’s History month, take a stroll through your journey and discover or reconnect with some of the beautiful, courageous African American women who made it possible for us to head major corporations, become leaders in politics, travel in outer space and make decisions that shape the fabric of the world.  Most important, share this history with girls and young women so they too will know their foremothers and perhaps carve a place in history, their school, workplace and communities.

Friday, February 3, 2012

The Power of Love

     I was pondering the emotion of love and wondered how love can be the most powerful force in the universe and yet, many have such a difficult time understanding and expressing the one power that is designed to hold us together. 
     The bible teaches us to abide by faith, hope and love, but the greatest of these is love.  We are further instructed to pursue love and commanded that we love one another as God has loved us.  This is a testimony to the power of love.
 Often when we think of love, particularly during the month of February for Valentine's Day, we think of relationships between husband and wife or boyfriend and girlfriend.  Our feelings seem to intensify with the very thought that we are loved by that special person.  Some people spend days, weeks and months trying to create a clever way to show their sweethearts they are loved.  That expression is typically done through a nice dinner, flowers, candy or cards.  These are all beautiful gestures that I appreciate giving and receiving, but I cannot help but consider if we spread the intensity of that love beyond our mates, how powerful our relationships would be within our families and communities.
    The power of love helps us to overcome and endure through bad relationships, loss and dysfunctional situations.  That bond created by love most certainly has the power to hold families together.  Love provides the equipment to help us go the distance.  Love covers our mistakes.  Love allows us to hold on to each other in spite of our differences.  Love empowers us to reach our arms across a wider range of people and situations to lift others up. 
     The power of love lies within each and every one of us.  On this Valentine's Day, stretch your arms beyond your sweetheart and show a gesture of love to others. We all enjoy hearing those three words, I Love You.

Friday, January 20, 2012

"Red Tails" Missing at Movie Theaters

Before retiring to bed last night, I decided to look up the screening times for Red Tails at the local theater by my home in Georgia.  I scanned the web page several times before conceding that Red Tails was not even on the schedule.  My first thought was, “okay you probably missed it so go back again and move the mouse slowly down the page.”  The final conclusion was the movie was not listed.
I immediately scanned through the other fourteen theaters owned by this company, NCG Cinemas and found that only three of the fourteen had listed Red Tails.  My next step was to look for the contact information and even though it was after midnight, I did not hesitate to write my message of outrage and dissatisfaction to management via email.  I also listed on my Facebook and Twitter pages. 
I woke up this morning eager to pick up with sending out the message not to support theaters that did not show Red Tails as far as I could take it and a strange thing happened, Red Tails was now listed and with two screens at my local NCG Cinema and all but one of the fourteen were now displaying show times for the movie.
Perhaps I jumped to conclusions, but typically by Thursday midnight, new movies are listed for the weekend and most certainly any movie by George Lucas would have advance listing with the expectation attendance will increase. 
My advice is to watch your tickets when you purchase them, make a public complaint about theaters in your area not showing Red Tails, do not purchase the movie from bootleggers and most certainly get off the couch and go see this historical presentation.

Wednesday, January 11, 2012

"Mo Better" Inspiration for Women Over 40

Sheila Agnew will conduct a workshop in Las Vegas on February 11th entitled "Mo Better" Inspiration for Women Over 40.  The workshop is an interactive session on Reinventing, Reconnecting and Rejuvenation.

February 11, 2012
Workshop Presentation
"Mo Better" Inspiration for Women Over 40
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This group was formed to create a community of mature, African American women in Las Vegas/Henderson. Those of us 40 years and older have so much to share. Wisdom, kindness, laughter and fun. Let's ge

"Mo Better" Inspiration for Women Over 40